As I have talked with people this month, a common question keeps coming up.  “My father (or mother) should not be living alone anymore, but they won’t move. What should I do?”

My answer is as follows:

1.     PRAY, PRAY AND PRAY some more!  Pray for their heart to change or for your heart to change.

2.     Understand, it is their decision unless they are suffering from Dementia and are a true danger to themselves.

3.     Turn the demand for them to move, into how much it would help you if he (or she) would consider moving in or near you.  Ask them to list the pros and cons and you do the same.  You, especially, need to list how this would help you and your family.  Then let them know it is ultimately their decision and you will abide by their choice.

4.     Do not argue with them.

5.     Give them time to contemplate your pros and cons.

Many times if your loved one understands how much they would be helping you, they will make the choice to move.  However, you must respect their wishes whether or not they decide to move!