May, 2016 Dementia (cont.)

As stated last month, the word 'Dementia' brings dread and fear.  Amidst all the angst, it is important to keep your sense of humor.  Recently a friend’s grandfather died and the grandmother (with dementia) was trying to help the family decide what to have him wear for the viewing.  His favorite plaid jacket was suggested but the grandmother said, “No, he would be too hot in that coat. Let’s just take several outfits to the funeral home and let him decide what he wants to wear.” 

Humor is the savior of many a difficult circumstance.  Don’t be afraid to laugh and lighten the mood when your loved one is tense, agitated or confused.  Never correct a wrong answer; turn it around to make a funny story. Words like: “You can’t”, “I just told you…”, “Remember…”, or “Why can’t you…” will only exacerbate the confusion and frustration.  Re-direct, hold and love your family members with dementia!

Proverbs 15:13  "A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance: but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken."

Proverbs 15:15  "All the days of the afflicted are evil: but he that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast."

Proverbs 17:22  "A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones."