Independence vs Dependence

We spend our whole lives trying to be independent!  We are dependent as a baby and young child but at the other end of the spectrum dependence again rears its head.  What are some ‘tricks’ to dealing with negative reactions to dependence?  When someone refuses to take a bath – Just as you would not ask a child if he wants to take a bath…you don’t give an opportunity for your elderly loved one to refuse.  It helps to matter-of-factly schedule a bath or shower on a specific day of the week.  For example: “It is Saturday, time for your bath”.  Or…”Today is Monday, wash day…I need your clothes to wash” instead of “Do you have anything you would like me to wash?” 

Not giving into the trap of arguing but staying calm yet firm will keep you on solid ground. This is also pleasing to God as you fulfill his goal for your daily life of caregiving.

Proverbs 15:1, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.”