Have you noticed your loved one saying awkward statements that would never have been thought of, much less articulated when they were younger? Remember, it is not them it is the disease of ‘aging’. After a stroke or multiple other diseases, the brain does not function at full capacity. Ignore, redirect, laugh, or apologize to others for their insensitive remark as necessary. It is not necessary to correct or make your loved one feel bad for their remarks. They genuinely are confused and unable to understand what they said and why you are upset. Re-direct the conversation as quickly as possible. Keep your tone even and calm. Is it easy? Not for me! I have several friends who can keep a soft, pleasant tone in their voice no matter the circumstances. I think of them often when I am trying to ‘modulate my reply’.
May you dwell on this verse for May and ask God to use it in your life as a caregiver!
Proverbs 15:1 “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.”