Well, we have now entered into the next phase of our lives. Retirement! When we were the caregivers, we made a list of “What not to do to our children”. With that in mind, we have tried to clean out and get rid of as much as we could and have now moved closer to our daughter and granddaughter. After 37 years in one house, we could look at the move with sadness or we could view it as a new adventure! To be honest, it was a little of both. Our number one item on the list of “What not to do to our children” was to be unwilling to move near them. It can be daunting, scary or lonely to think about a major move. However, we need to ask the question, “What, where and whom do we plan to eventually take care of us?” Unless God decides otherwise, we will all need some level of care. Do we want a stranger taking care of us or our children or grandchildren? These are hard questions to think about but it is vitally important to plan for the inevitable. Never be too busy to spend time either on the phone or in person to maintain and cultivate the family relationships. Remember, we are always training the next generation to take care of us someday!


Happy New Year!?

As I have traveled and listened to people this past year, I have come to a new understanding regarding parents and their grown children. Many families live near each other and take care of each other i.e. grandparents taking care of grandchildren, adult children taking care of parents. On the other hand, I have talked with some who adamantly state, “I will never live or move near my children!”

What is the difference and why?  If adult children do not foster a relationship with their parents or grandparents while they are able to be independent, why should they expect the parent or grandparent to accommodate them when they are too old to care for themselves?  I hear anger in the elderly. I hear frustration in the adult children because their loved one will not come live with them or at least near them.

I understand both sides of the issue.  I would like to challenge both sides to make a concerted effort in 2015 to foster the relationships between the generations. One quick suggestion: With instant access today, snap a picture with your cell phone and send it to their email or cell phone on a regular basis.  Pictures pique interest and generate an atmosphere of ‘you want me to be a part of your world’.  Teach your children to video chat with their grandparents and grandparents use the computer/phone to communicate with your children and grandchildren. Make time for contact! Life can be a never ending treadmill. Stop for just a second and snap a picture and encourage each other on the journey.  

Psalm 90:12 "So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom."