Cool, Calm, and Collected

Cool, calm and collected?  You have all heard these three words but how can they apply to us as caregivers especially during this special, hectic season?  It is not easy and I struggle every year trying to fall into this category.

I have been a 24/7 caregiver for 16 years and the month of December is probably the most rewarding and frustrating time of the year! I am now adding – decorating, special baking, gift buying and wrapping from me and also separate gifts from the one I am caring for because they want it to be just from them.  There is also preparation for many guests to come to visit and/or stay.  It is enough to make my head spin!

I am learning – how I respond is a CHOICE!  I can become overwhelmed and give up or I can respond to the challenge as a new adventure.  Family members are coming home and church family members feel it is their opportunity to come and sing carols to your loved ones. They all need to be made to feel at home.   I HAVE A CHOICE.

Solution #1 Welcome all and not worry if the house is not perfect…’people’ are so much more important than ‘things’. 

Solution #2 Teenagers love to come and bake, decorate, rake leaves (maybe not love the leaves), especially if they can earn a small amount of Christmas spending money. (It will be the best money you ever spent!) You do not have to do it alone.  Contact your local church and ask for help- don’t let pride stand in your way.  You will be doing the church family a favor as well as yourself.  It is such a wonderful feeling to have everything done in a timely manner and know you are ready for the company to come to visit their family member for whom you are caring for every day.  

Galatians 1:22 “Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ”  

CHOOSE to accept your circumstances and reach out to others and allow them the joy of helping you during this wonderful but busy season.

May this be the Season of Joy instead of added burdens!